When I came out as bisexual a year ago, it was absolutely no surprise to most people. I had known about my sexuality not being precisely hetero for a while, but I never accepted the fact that "yeah, I am in fact bi," until a friend of mine told me "you know, it's okay to be real with yourself."
And being real with myself, and admitting my sexuality to myself, actually really calmed me down.
Granted, I chose to only date and have relationships with men. Mostly due to the fact that I was already dating a man at this time.
So, although I had admitted to being bisexual to myself, and it affecting me but not really affecting anyone else (not that it would have anyways) I chose, for personal reasons, to only date men.
I was soon called out as "not being truly bisexual" (what?) or even at one point harassed into cheating on my boyfriend with a woman who claimed I should be true to my sexuality and experiment. I, of course, did not give her the time of day, whether you consider it "just experimenting" or not.
I was constantly told to just experiment if I have these feelings, to give in to my sexuality. I got so sick of it so quickly.
I'm not an animal who acts purely on instinct! I'm a woman who happens to be sexually attracted to both sexes, but chooses to be with only men.
The only reason why the truth about my sexuality was even spilled to these kinds of people in the first place is because they would blatantly ask what my opinion on LGBT rights is.
I guess this is just a vent, and a lesson. If someone is experiencing issues with their sexuality, please don't force them into acting on those feelings. They might not be ready, or they may simply be choosing not to act on those feelings.
We're human. We can choose what feelings we act on. Respect our intelligence.
I have a feeling that this site is going to truly be a breath of fresh air. The clarity that has come to me just from this post is immense.
I'm certain that I, too, am bisexual (though I've never admitted it to myself, or to anyone else), but that I only choose to date and sleep with men. I *have* slept with girls before as a teenager, but it felt like simply taking an opportunity when the two (or more) of us were horny. I felt maybe we were just very comfortable with each other, or that we were just experimenting. When people talked about how women so readily are attracted to each other, I felt that maybe I wasn't bisexual, that I was straight and that comfortably praising/envying/being weirdly attracted to women was normal for straight women. Maybe I'm just so confident in my heterosexuality that being with women doesn't bother me. Or maybe it's a spectrum thing.
But reading this, I've just realized the simplicity of your conclusion, and how true it is for me as well: I am bisexual. And I strongly prefer men to women. And that's all there is to it.